From the moment your daughter announces her engagement, until the day after the wedding, you, as the mother of the bride, are as excited as your daughter. Are you remembering your own wedding time and deciding how her special day should go? The reality is that this is her big day. Even if you are helping out financially, commit to simply being a thoughtful and considerate consultant. Since she will have her own ideas of what she wants, you can focus on the areas that you can be comfortably responsible for: how to present yourself at this once-in-a-lifetime occasion.
Every time you share an event with your daughter, people will be observing you. You walk her down the aisle, are introduced at the shower or reception and the clothes and jewelry you wear at these times require planning. Your daughter will also be thinking about you as she considers her dress, bridal party outfits, and wedding color scheme and theme.
Spend some time together with bridal magazines before that first visit to the specialty shop. Every bridal publication has ads for the mother of the bride. Don’t leave your dress choice to the last minute. You may need to special order your size or color and to return for fittings, so give yourself plenty of time to shop and select.
New outfits and jewelry make not just the wedding day feel special. You can use the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and wedding brunch to dress and accessorize as you wish. And don’t forget: these events will be filmed and photographed!
What to Wear to a Bridal Shower
This is usually the first event surrounding the wedding and is intended as a gift giving occasion for the bride. Customarily the maid of honor and/or bridesmaids host and often there is a theme and or color scheme surrounding this ladies only fête. It is a light hearted, joyful day and whether it incorporates the playful tradition of the bridal hat made of bows or not, a healthy dose of feminine whimsy is always in order. You may be meeting some dear friends and members of the groom’s family for the first time here, so of course you want to look and feel your best. Wear something that is upbeat and inviting; this flowing floral maxi dress paired with a fanciful floral necklace emanates warmth and ease.
Mother of the Bride Rehearsal Dress and Dinner
The purpose of the ceremony rehearsal is to make sure everyone in the wedding party knows their part. It may well be the first time that all of these people, who matter so much to the couple and their families, are coming together and some may have traveled some distance. The after-rehearsal dinner is a wonderful opportunity for introductions and real conversation that there may not be time for during the flurry of the wedding. It may be held in a restaurant, hotel or in someone’s home and dressy attire is appropriate for the mother of the bride at this evening event. A cocktail dress in a flattering color with a matching statement necklace is celebratory and tastefully alluring. You may not be the official host of this dinner but as the mother of the bride, your gracious shine adds to the anticipation of the big day ahead.
Mother of the Bride Dress Etiquette
Your dress may be the most important one you shop for since you shopped for your own wedding dress. You will probably shop together with your daughter for her dress, but she may not have time to help you select yours. Therefore, a few things to keep in mind.
We’ve said it before but it warrants repeating – don’t leave this to the last minute. Know if your daughter has any preferences as to shade or style in order to coordinate with the rest of the party. And do check with the mother of the groom so there are no clashing colors.
Today, a MOB can wear a halter dress with a removable jacket , a suit or something more elaborate; in other words, something formal and elegant to something trending and chic. You want to look your best but not upstage the bride. Choose an outfit you will wear again. Consider the length and possible future alterations.
Mother of the bride dresses are generally neutral colors: bone, champagne, navy or black — shades which go beautifully with the bride’s white. Your jewelry can provide accents of the wedding colors. Pair a lovely, subtly embellished champagne outfit with a customized necklace. Our matrix design blends hundreds of freshwater pearls and crystals; picture it in the colors of the bride’s bouquet, harmonizing your ensemble with the wedding theme while setting you apart as the esteemed mother of the bride.
Post Wedding Brunch
This is often held when there are out of town guests. It tends to be casual as people are preparing to depart and travel home. But you, the mother of the bride, can use this final gathering to leave a lovely lasting impression.
Wear something relaxed but polished such as a day dress or a smart pants suit. In this outfit, dress slacks and a luxurious chiffon top and jacket is paired with stunning one-a-kind jewelry. Creating an ensemble with understated but unique stylish pieces elevates an informal brunch look to something really special.
No matter how much preparation you and your daughter do, this is going to be an emotional time for both of you. But it is also a glorious opportunity to enhance your relationship as she moves on to the next phase of her life. Best wishes!
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